5 This is a story about true love, and about loss. A gay relationship is as deep, significant and meaningful as a straight relationship.
Love
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2 As a boy age six I knew in my heart I was not going to like girls, but instead boys and men were my thing. As a southern baptist preacher's kid, it was not going to be easy to say the words, I AM GAY.
I am not different, I am just gay
1 Durban is a wonderful city situated in KwaZulu Natal. One has to love the warm but erratic weather and the cool beautiful beaches. The people here are also quite friendly and welcoming although one does encounter a few grumpy individuals now and then. Durban is quite a vibrant upbeat city with an average paced life. It is characterized by rich racial, cultural, ethnic and religious diversity. The city itself is quite stunning at night, with the beautiful coloured lights but also surprisingly quiet and peaceful in the late hours of the night. It is also booming with the LGBT community and many young gay or lesbian people find it easy and perhaps comfortable to express their sexuality in this great city. What is interesting about Durban is that although it is a modernized upbeat city, it has managed to hold on to some of the values and morals of old and it is still conservative to a certain extent. For most young individuals, especially from areas in the North of KZN, Durban it a place to be!
Finding love in the big city (Durban): A losing battle
1 Where do I start talking about finding love? Yet alone in one of the most vibrant and culturally rich cities in Africa? Coming from a much smaller place - Durban, where everyone is laid back and always seem to be on a "Go Slow", I have found the transition to be rather difficult.
Finding Love in the Mother City
2 As gay people, we are all at different stages of coming out & acceptance. This makes finding love difficult, as many guys are not giving us what we want.
I have read and heard of many people saying: "I am a good-looking guy and quite laid-back. Why is finding love so hard? Why is it so hard for me to find love?" Or the usual, “I got into one of those dating sites and was excited about the prospects of meeting someone. But all I got were guys who were looking for sex, sex, sex and sex disguised as 'love'. Am I missing something?”
The difficulty of finding love in a gay life
5 A gay guy is raised in a traditional African culture, and he tells of his life in a homophobic society. He has recently come out to his family.
Just a guy looking for another. Any hope for me?
A guest post from a reader:
A gay guy who comes from a family where homosexuality is forbidden, raised only by his mum, aunties and a grandma, causing an effeminate mannerism.
My other side – an effeminate gay man
Valentine's Day is the highlight of the year for some, a commercial waste of time for others, and a very lonely day for a few. You really should try to do something nice - it will make you feel great. There's nothing wrong with spicing up your life a bit.
Valentine’s day ideas
One of my readers emailed me the below short story, and he has allowed me to post it here. I think it is really beautiful. Thanks Neil! “Don’t feel bad about my death, my love, it was God’s plan. He took me away from you and I know the pain […]